Why do we need friends ?

A very big question?

Every person in this world needs friendship. Without friendship we just can’t live, it’s like the frog that lives in the pond and thinks that only this is the world.

In our life we meet many friends, whom we like. But, there may be only one or two person who can change our life. Whom we don’t want to leave. We just can’t think of leaving them and if by any chance we come in such a position that we have to leave that friend, we feel that all the excitement from our life has gone. No matter how happy and satisfied we are with our life. We start doubting the definition of friendship.

We may have many relation in our life 1.e. father, mother, hubby, wife, brother, sister etc but friendship is above all. There are certain things that we can’t share with anyone except our friends. That’s the reason why we look for friends.

When a friendship comes to end we start thinking of those persons who were great friends like Lord Rama and Hanuman, Lord Krishna and Sudama etc.

But, one thing we should understand that friendship is the other name of trust. The reason why most friendship breaks is “lack of mutual trust".
That’s the single most reason. The day you feel that the other person doesn’t trust you or vice-versa. The roots of friendship stops growing.

There can be one more reason that we can say plays an important role in breaking friendship. That is “lack of mutual respect”. If you feel that the other person doesn’t give you the respect that you deserve or he/she doesn’t give respect to your feelings and emotions. The roots of friendship start shaking.

We all accept that we need friends, Good Friends.
Then lets try and trust our friends and give the respect that he/she deserves.

More important there is no place for EGO.
There should not be EGO problem between the two.

The day past without friend won’t come again.
So, try o preserve each and every day. Don’t waste it simply, because the day when you feel like talking to your friend and if he/she ignores you. You will feel very bad. We can’t afford to loose a single day of our life.
If a relationship has come to an end then lets forget it and try to start it again or

‘Go ahead and look for a new Buddy”.

But, enjoy every moment of your life.
World is very big.

We can’t sit and cry for whatever has happened. After all, everybody moves in life and it is best to let go of the past.

I strongly feel that everybody should be out in the open right at the beginning of a relationship. In the first stage we are still discovering and starting to accept the person. But, if this “Past catching up” business comes later in relationship, it could cause a major upheaval and lead to awkwardness too.
If u comes to know that your friend was telling you lies all these days without any reason. Then you will feel bad, very bad and it hurts very badly. So, stop avoiding these lies from the beginning. If you tell everything to your friend form the beginning then it shows that you really care for your friend and really trust him/her.

Moreover, it is important to know the real person and not just an illusion created by him/her.

When you do friendship to a person it means you are important and special to him/her.

Never impose your friendship !

Friendship is a golden thread woven by two friends around themselves to create a different world of their own, all by themselves. They distinguish their world from the rest of the world by their immense love for each other.

Friendship can never be one sided, because if it is so, then one of the two is not a friend but a prisoner in the world so created by the other one who calls himself/herself as friend. Such friendships never last longer! Because the so called prisoner either breaks open the chains and go away or get pressurized under the so called friendship of the so called friend and gets frustrated and rebels!

In both the cases, I personally feel that the so-called friend is the one at fault (Obviously) and he is also the one who has to lose. Because he/she (whoever concerned) loses a ‘buddy’. He/She loses a person on whom he/She had showered all the love possessed by him/her.

Unfortunately, the love showered was like nailing the other person who was not interested.

So! The best way is to win over the person first, know what his/her wish is, whether the person is really interested in friendship! If no, then......

Do not lose hope; if you want a friend then you deserve that person.

Sooner or later, the seed of friendship will be sowed in the heart of that person and he would enjoy being your friend.

The world created, then, would be the most powerful and beautiful one, found on this earth.

Friendship is not measured by the time you were friends, it depends on how much you trust each other. It depends on immense affection towards each other.

This is why, often, friendships as old as many years are, less deep and true than those just born!

Friendship is an art, not known to all. Know it and you will be highly blessed.

Thus, this is one of the most important rule of friendship .It is the best way to start a lifelong friendship :

Friendship Quotes.....

--Love is not loveWhich alters when it finds alterationOr bends with the remover to removeO! No! It is an ever-fixed markThat looks on tempests and is never shaken. -William Shakespare

--"Each person has inside a basic decency and goodness. If he listens to it and acts on it, he is giving a great deal of what it is the world needs most. It is not complicated but it takes courage. It takes courage for a person to listen to his own goodness and act on it." – Pablo Casals.

--Leave something for friend.........never leave friend for something..............Because in life, something will leave you, but friends will always live with you.

..Nice people are like the wind, U will never know what's inside their heart, But u'll always feel their presence.

--" Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing". - Benjamin Franklin

--Golden wods in Life is "Never cry for anybody". Beacuse the person for whom you are crying never desreves your tears...........and who really deserves it..will never let you cry !

--Forgiveness is the final form of love. -- Reinhold Niebubr

-- Relationship is like a garden. It's beautiful when watered with love, tears & cheers. but it dries up if left untouched.

--We met , it was LUCK...............We talked , it was by CHANCE..............we beacme friends, it was DESTINY..........We are still friends, its DECISION.............We will lways be friends, thats a PROMISE.

--Good friends care for each other.........Close friends understand each other..... ans true friends stay forever................Beyond words.............Beyond Time.........Beyond Distance..........

--LIFE ended when you stopped dreaming.......... LOVE ended when stopped Believing........Hope ended when stopped Hearing.........and I MISSED YOU ended when stopped talking to me..

--Sometime I feel what I earned in Life.........

MONEY? naaaaaaaaa.........

NAME? naaaaaaaaaaa......

FAME? naaaaaa.........

But I earned the most precious thing!

A friend like you........!

--A candle may melt and it's fire may Die.............But, the "LOVE " you have given "ME" will always light my "LIFE"

--Love and friendship ......... It's a package of feelings..........Nobody can make it.............Nobody can delete it.........Nobody can explain it..........Only we can feel it........... Love you !

--I know friendship is hard to keep but even it gets harder I wont give up. Beacause if its harder to keep you then it will be a lot harder to find you again.

--Remember that theer will always be a person who remembers you everyday with ot without any contact............. Thats me.

Its amazing-An ambitious software engineer

An ambitious software engineer finally decided to take a vacation. He booked himself on a Caribbean cruise and proceeded to have the time of his life. At least for a while. A hurricane came up unexpectedly. The ship went down and was lost instantly. The man found himself swept up on the shores of an island with no other people, no supplies, nothing. Only bananas and coconuts.

Used to four-star hotels, this guy had no idea what to do. So, for the next four months he ate bananas, drank coconut juice, longed for his old life, and fixed his gaze on the sea, hoping to spot a rescue ship. One day, as he was lying on the beach, he spotted movement out of the corner of his eye. It was a rowboat, and in it was the most gorgeous woman he had ever seen.She rowed up to him.

In disbelief, he asked her: "Where did you come from, and how did you get here?" "I rowed from the other side of the island," she said. "I landed here when my cruise ship sank." "Amazing," the software engineer said, "I didn't know anyone else had survived. How many of you are there? You were really lucky to have a rowboat wash up with you." "It's only me," she said, "and the row boat didn't wash up: nothing did." He was confused, "Then how did you get the rowboat?"
"Oh, simple," replied the woman. "I made it out of raw material that I found on the island. The oars were whittled from gum-tree branches, I wove the bottom from palm branches, and the sides and stern came from a eucalyptus tree."

"But, but, that's impossible," stuttered the man."You had no tools or hardware - how did you manage?" "Oh, that was no problem," the woman said. "On the south side of the island, there is a very unusual strata of exposed alluvial rock. I found that if I fired it to a certain temperature,it melted into forgeable ductile iron. I used that to make tools, and used the tools to make the hardware. But enough of that. Where do you live?"

Sheepishly, the man confessed that he had been sleeping on the beach the whole time. "Well, let's row over to my place then," she said. After a few minutes of rowing, she docked the boat at a small wharf As the man looked onto shore, he nearly fell out of the boat. Before him was a stone walk leading to an exquisite bungalow painted in blue and white.While the woman tied up the rowboat with an expertly woven hemp rope,the man could only stare ahead,dumbstruck.
As they walked into the house, she said casually,"It's not much, but I call it home. Sit down, please. Would you like to have a drink?" "No, no, thank you," he said, still dazed. "I couldn't drink another drop of coconut juice."

"It's not coconut juice," the woman replied.I have made a still - How about a Pina Colada?" Trying to hide his continued amazement, the software engineer accepted,and they sat down on her couch to talk. After they had exchanged their stories, the woman announced,"I'm going to slip into something more comfortable. Would you like to have a shower and a shave?There is a razor upstairs in the cabinet in the bathroom." No longer questioning anything, the man went into the bathroom. There in the cabinet was a razor made from a bone handle.Two shells honed to a hollow-ground edge were fastened to its tip, inside a swivel mechanism.

"This woman is absolutely amazing," he mused."What next?" When he returned,the woman greeted him. She beckoned for him to sit down next to her. "Tell me," she began suggestively,Gazing into his Eyes ... very Romantically ..She whispers "We've both been out here for a very long time. You've been lonely. There's something I'm sure you really feel like doing right now, something you've been longing to do for all of these months." She stared into his eyes.
He couldn't believe what he was hearing - this was like all of his dreams coming true in one day. "You mean..." he replied, "I can check my e-mail from here?"